Each Day R/Evolution

Striving for Gracious Change - Parting Ways

For anyone who has ever had to part ways with a loved one, an open letter shared, but meant for one.

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We are both experts in recapitulation and crafting the optimal story to express our understanding of a situation.  That is how we move forward in life.  Rationalizations and Understanding Why - we pursue these things to give closure, to justify and accept change. 

At the very Meta, for the infinite myriad of trajectories that has now opened up for us both, this parting is a Gift.

We got to know what it was like to experience a relationship with an equally awakened and powerful partner.  We saw elements of ourselves in each other that reflected aspects we liked to or needed to see. We have derived valuable learning and experienced growth during the tenure of our relationship.  In any relationship, romantic, business or friendship - there are depths of trust, intimacy and love that can be achieved.  And I think we did pretty well.  This is why I do not hold any part of my relationship with you as a disappointment or betrayal.  Those are heavy things to hold. A drag coefficient.  I know we have been blessings to one another.  But its time to invest my energies elsewhere.

We just couldn't keep moving forward, because our mutual paths are at a necessary point of divergence.  Our next level must be something we haven't been able to see or grasp because we have become too clouded with the vision we have been trying to force. This is the sign to let go, say thank you, bless you, and then turn your head to other visions, with full knowledge of my unspoken acknowledgement of my confidence, love and support of you, even as I move in a different direction. In my opinion, which of course you may or may not share, anything less than accepting this basic and encompassing truth, is an interpretation lacking in enlightenment or true compassion.  Unconditional love is based upon this understanding.

Mutually arising, and always with more love, because love is abundant and compassion is infinite.

Carmen

Condolences for the Living

For my loved ones, who have lost their loved ones recently:

For John Mark Flaniken, for his departed grandfather
A full life, a fulfilling life for the patriarch of a great family.

For Romeo Candido, for his departed grandmother
A tender passing, with her grandchildren around her, music, then silence as her spirit moved from this life into the infinite.

For Jaime Llewellyn, for her sister, Audrey
She leaves behind two young daughters and a family in shock at a completely inexplicable and unexpected loss.

I have wrestled with my own grief and my own losses, and come to terms with my own process of grieving.This does not lessen my empathy or sympathy for the loved ones who are experiencing pain, loss, and the poignancy of a life interrupted.   I cry with you, I cry for you, and  will hold  strong on the other side of sadness, for  however long you need a friend to process, or moments of silence, or if you just need to be heard or cajoled into moments of laughter.

Yesterday, I had my first prenatal visit, and heard my little pod's heartbeat for the first time. New life, received from the energy of those past.